Who Would You Choose ?

speakers-414560_640One day, during an evening class for adults, the psychology Teacher entered the class and told his students, “Let’s all play a game!” “What Game?” asked the students. The Teacher asked one of the students to volunteer. A lady named Aliza came forward.

The Teacher asked her to write about 30 names of most important people in her life on blackboard. Aliza wrote her family members’ names and relatives’ names, friends’ names, her colleagues’ names and her neighbors’ names.

The Teacher told her “Please erase 3 names from the list that you consider most unimportant”. Aliza erased names of her colleagues. The Teacher again told her to delete 5 more names. Aliza did as the Teacher instructed and this time she erased her neighbors’ names. This went on until there were just four names left on the blackboard.

Aliza now hesitated as the names left were of her mother, father, husband and her son. The entire class became silent and they realized that this wasn’t a game anymore for Aliza. She had to make the difficult choice. The Teacher told her to delete two more names. Eliza unwillingly deleted her parents’ names. “Please delete one more” said the professor. Aliza became very nervous and with trembling hands she deleted her son’s name. Aliza cried out painfully.

The Teacher told Aliza to take her seat. And after a while asked her why she didn’t choose her parents or her son instead of her husband as the parents are the ones that nurtured her and the son is the one she gave birth to while she could find another husband. “Why is your husband the most important for you?” He asked. It was totally quiet in the class, everyone was curious to know her response. Aliza calmly and slowly said, “On day my parents will pass away before me. Surely, my son will also leave me when he grows old for his studies or business or whatever reason. The only one who I truly share my entire life with is my Husband”. All the students stood up and applauded for her in a great excitement.

We meet many people in our lives. They come and they go. Some stay for a while, some stay forever. Respect every relation, but know the priorities.

(PS: If it were a man in place of Aliza he would choose his wife and give the same reasons as Aliza did.)

Well, who would you choose if you were in Aliza’s place ?

Give your answer in the comments section below

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18 Responses to Who Would You Choose ?

  1. Dr.Shady April 13, 2015 at 8:18 PM #

    I would do the same The Prophet (SAW) replied: “Never did Allah (SWT) give me a better wife than Khadijah. She hailed my mission at a time when everybody shouted against it. She lent me the support of her conviction when there was hardly a believer. She enlivened my heart when I felt lonely and deserted. Khadijah’s love was given to me by Allah (SWT). How could I forget her?”

  2. Aahil March 3, 2015 at 7:10 AM #

    I would choose my MOTHER,because she nurtured me and told me what is right and what is wrong

  3. Lakshmi February 10, 2015 at 4:51 PM #

    I am destined to be here and I am here by Grace of GOd.. God’s will I am here and He takes me when he wants. He has given loan free of cost this breath. When he wants he will take back with Interest. Hence, I respect everyone Parents, Children, Husband, Neighbours, colleagues, Bosses, we live in Society and we are social beings. We have to play the role that’s all. Thanks

  4. M. S. Alhassan December 25, 2014 at 7:27 PM #

    For a man, the final choice will be the mother whose natural bond is incontestable and who is forever loyal, loving and truthful.

    • Sana - Editor FFJ December 27, 2014 at 12:40 PM #

      Different people different choices and thoughts. Thanks for sharing your choice.
      It is always really nice to know different views of people 🙂

  5. BALA December 7, 2014 at 4:39 PM #

    i will prefer son as he has to be developed to at its best and apart from me he will be lonliest person, where as parents can go together and wife can look forward something better.

  6. mad December 4, 2014 at 2:19 PM #

    that is the toughest question in the world!!

  7. Rizwan December 2, 2014 at 3:19 PM #

    I appreciate Aliza’s courage to delete the names of parents and son.

  8. sade December 1, 2014 at 2:48 AM #

    Wise choice

    • Sana - Editor FFJ December 1, 2014 at 12:03 PM #

      What if it was Ahmed instead of Aliza ? Who do you think he should choose ?

  9. Ali Asif Jadun November 29, 2014 at 3:22 PM #

    U may find another wife or another husband or another son .but u cant find another mom and dad..they are irreplaceable.

  10. adam November 29, 2014 at 12:04 AM #

    Am short of words my self,bcoz @ that moment I would not knw who to chose but she actually made a wise choise

  11. sharif123 November 28, 2014 at 11:11 PM #

    My vote goes for saving the son

  12. Syed Habibulla November 28, 2014 at 7:38 PM #

    For ladies it is correct to choose husband,for his sake she left father mother to have good married life.For gents it is father and mother,because they have brought up by sacrificing everything for the sake of children.Now it is our duty to support them.If the final choice is one it will be “MOTHER”,we can leave everyone in this world not mother.

  13. Farouk Kamal November 28, 2014 at 5:34 PM #

    I would choose my parents =, because they raised me,, and helped me to complete my studies and become a responsible man,. Furthermore, if I lose my wife and son I can get remarried and have another son, but, if I lose my parents I cannot replace
    them. It is wise to say, but, it is wiserto do.

  14. Vithya November 28, 2014 at 2:36 PM #

    It’s my master Sri Sri Ravi Shanker I’ll choose.

  15. Abdul Waheed November 28, 2014 at 1:32 PM #

    I would have refused to delete last four names, but insistence the last remained would have been my mother because she is the one who brought you in this world, cared for you more than herself. The most importantly, the prophet (SAW) commanded so.