There once was a young boy who was mischevious and had a a very short temper. All efforts by his parents to change his bad behaviour were in vain. When just words were not enough his father though of a practical solution. He gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he got angry, he must hammer a nail into the fence of his house.
The first day the boy had driven 29 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks as he learned to control his anger and the number of nails hammered gradually went down.
He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive nails into the fence.
Finally the day came when he didn’t lose his temper. He told his father and his father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his anger. The days passed and the boy told his father that all the nails were gone.
The father took the boy by the hand and led him to the fence. He said look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same, when you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like the ones on the fence.You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I am sorry, the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.
Moral: Actions done when angry can have irreparable damage. Words spoken when in anger can break relations and no matter how much you appolgize or regret, the relation will never be the same.
Thirukural : 129 says as below
In flesh by fire inflamed, nature may thoroughly heal the sore;
In soul by tongue inflamed, the ulcer healeth never more.
Explanation :
The wound which has been burnt in by fire may heal, but a wound burnt in by the tongue will never heal.
damages can not inflicted only by swords , tongue is the biggest weapon and you have explained it so well .
Hi,Sara : Any job need to be done perfectly by any must be cool and concentrate
you can heal the physical wounds but verbal wounds cannot be repaired with words very few people
seal those wounds by themselves
it is a good thing to control your tongue.A word once uttered is counted on you.
yes it is true words spoken when in anger can break relations, and even i have to change my short temper behaviour……….because of this behaviour i lost my girl friend………….
Here it is, the brave one, that one who controls his anger.
However, sometimes you can’t blame the one who behaves out of his righteous feelings, the feeling of weakness and injustice. It depends on the situation he is being involved in. Sometimes, it could be a matter of dignity and honor.
I totally agree
i can sware i read this story here before
If we can control are anger, then that is one thing we succeed against shaitan (devil). And the goal is to defeat shaitan.
Very lovely story.
Great moral.
i like fences idea
good moral
i like fences idea
good moral
kehne mein kia jata hai …
naaa kehne ie mein to sab kuch jata hai …
verbal wound can never be healed …
n the person who s hurt ll never be the same again …
a little word said can follow you for a long time …
a very good story. we do not hurt others.
I have also bad temper and I cannot control me
As speed kills anger too kills, breaks the hearts and families. Controling anger is a courageous act not cowardness.
Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be.
Thanx for sharing…..
Actually now a days it has become a trend to hurt peoples feelings tactfully playing with words even without consideiring how painful they can be for the other person. Fear Allah, it is said that bitter words are like iron nail hammered into wood.
I guess the Prophet (pbuh) ways of summing it up fits this kind of situation: “..say something good, or keep your mouth shut”.
perfect story! thanks for sharing 🙂
Anger brings damages within the heart and even physical
EXCELLANT & PERFECT
a great advice it is……..
Great story got me emotional
very nice