Do You Think Your Wife Is Bad ?


In the city of Baghdad, there lived a great scholar. One day a man named Zahir approached this scholar to complain about the manner in which his wife would talk to him. On reaching the Scholar’s house, Zahir noticed that the Scholar’s wife was speaking to the Scholar in the same way his wife spoke to him.

Zahir thought to himself, “I came here to talk about my wife’s ill-mannered speech towards me, but the Scholar seems to be facing the same problem I have been facing.” So he turned around and began to leave. Meanwhile, the Scholar came out and called Zahir back and enquired about his visit. Zahir told, “I came to moan about my wife, but when I saw your wife talking to you in the same way I decided to go back”

The Scholar explained, “I have taken up a forgiving nature towards my wife because of the things she does for me”. He continued, “My wife serves me delicious food each day, she washes my clothes every day, she raises my children in the best way, she goes to buy grocery and other stuff from the shops, she takes care of every need of the family, also she saves me from the bad things of the society, she is my comforter when I am angry, my friend when I need advice”

After listening to the Scholar Zahir replied, “I derive the same benefits from my wife like you do, but I never thought the way you did and never overlooked her mistakes and shortcomings.” I shall adopt the same nature like you from now on Zahir said and left happily.

Moral of the Story:

This is a reminder to every husband and wife to not complain about your spouses’ faults and shortcomings. Try to overlook the mistakes of each other in order to keep the marriage and the society peaceful. Hasten to forgive each other. Recall the past good that the other person has done in order to achieve peace and harmony.

Adopt forgiving attitude towards your spouse and see for yourself the happiness it brings to your life !!!

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22 Responses to Do You Think Your Wife Is Bad ?

  1. mohnooh May 3, 2014 at 11:05 PM #

    Its about umar rali allahu anhu

  2. Saad April 11, 2014 at 5:24 PM #

    Nice post. The moral is beautiful.

  3. nazmat1 April 2, 2014 at 3:18 PM #

    As per the Hadees, this story is belongs to Umar (R.A.)….

    Nice lesson to all husbands

    • Saad April 11, 2014 at 5:25 PM #

      Well, in my little knowledge, I too have heard that this story belongs to Umar R.A. But it would be nice if you can quote the reference of the Hadees about which you are talking. Thanks!

      • Sana - Editor FFJ April 12, 2014 at 8:03 AM #

        That’s Right. I had read the same story about Umar RA too. But when I checked, there is no authentic reference to it. Since the story is really good and a great lesson can be learned from it we thought of sharing it without attributing it to Umar RA 🙂

  4. khaled mohamed March 26, 2014 at 6:49 PM #

    But, that do not mean that there is no problem regarding modern women.
    women before were much better.

  5. shamim October 21, 2013 at 2:21 PM #

    nice lesson to everyone

  6. fathima a October 18, 2013 at 7:27 AM #

    nice to know something like this….

  7. salim October 15, 2013 at 6:10 PM #

    its not the meter of schia or any other sect. being a muslim we should not be controversal. its d story of muslim history its enough.

  8. Hussain RH Haji October 15, 2013 at 6:02 PM #

    Massage to my friend Saoni

    just a few line in respond to your comments.
    I am a muslim She’a. make not diffrent between mankind regarless to there relogion, bleaves or colour. we are all the God creatures.
    I respect all our profit peace be upon him.Suhabies, Abu Baker, Omar Bin Khatab
    and Uthman and Imam Ali Bin Abi Taleb Radhiayallah Anhum Jameea’a.

    In this time of hardship which we Muslims are going thorughI I thaink we are in need of unity more than thinking part, despersin and annoying each other.
    we must all pray to God and his blessing to bring us togather united against the Islam’s enemy. I request the God to forgive us all for our mistakes.

    Your brother Muslim She;a.


  9. isa October 14, 2013 at 7:02 PM #

    I thought this was the story of `Umar b. Al-Khattab also.

    However, upon researching for the source, I have since learnt that it is a mawdu` (fabricated) narration, attributed to `Umar b. Al-Khattab RadiyAllahu `anh.

    Wow, subhanAllah! You learn a new thing everyday!

  10. Zafar Iqbal October 14, 2013 at 6:33 PM #

    There are so many things being attributed to all the wonderful people in the past, that I will not like to join issues on that – unless there is complete authentication about the source; but Our Holy Prophet, PBUH, and his true followers led by example; and have many wonderful and truly appropriate stories about them.

    Indeed it is awe-inspiring and a humbling experience to read about them.

    But the seriousness of that is lost when people use wrong spellings and such atrocious and incorrect English about them. May I most humbly request our fellow viewers to please use correct English, when making comments??? It is in our very learning and following of Islam that we should be correct in what we do, and speak.

    I do hope that my suggestions will not be misunderstood; and accepted in the true spirit that it is meant.

    Actually, it is one of the suggestions I have given you: FFJ is your site which talks of Funny, Funny Jokes. But invariably you bring up religious and serious topics, by way of the Moral of the Story!!!!!!!! This is a different aspect of the story; and we often get diverted from the seriousness to the jocular aspect or vice versa.

    For, from the jocular aspect of this story, we have a saying in India which typifies the broad look at someone else’s wife being similar to yours!!!!!!!!! The saying can be safely translated as, “A Chicken in the Home is Equal to Ordinary Pulses” – “”ghar ki murghi dal barabar””!!!

  11. saoni October 14, 2013 at 2:25 PM #

    the one sent this story is sheaa
    he doesnt want to mention the khalifaOmar radi allah anh
    this to show how much these people are not humanbein

  12. Mohammad October 14, 2013 at 2:10 PM #

    It’s a story about Umar ibn Alkhattab (ra).

  13. Nicola October 14, 2013 at 1:22 PM #

    Very true. No one is perfect. If you are looking for the perfect one you will always be alone. Most people seem perfect at first, but soon we see the reality of human kind. We have to look at the positives and realise they outweigh the bad. We must also think however, about whether that negative thing we say may actually be caused by us.

    • sharif123 October 14, 2013 at 6:02 PM #


  14. ABDURRAHMAN October 14, 2013 at 1:18 PM #

    Itis ver good and useful story.

  15. Abdullah October 14, 2013 at 12:09 PM #

    This story is real , but not with a scholar , it is with Omar bin Alkhattab , one of our profit Mohammed’s (peace be upon him ) Islam followers during that time , it is really great to know that, you and your spouse have to look at what your life partner is giving you , not only what you need and what you expect , so you can pass this life trip peacefully and happily

    • The Engineer October 14, 2013 at 2:13 PM #

      Salam aliakum.
      Brother, can you give the link/reference to the story.

    • the Master October 14, 2013 at 2:26 PM #

      This is True Thank you

  16. Mutaz October 14, 2013 at 12:01 PM #

    The real original story came from sayidna 3omar bin al khatab and not from baghdad !!!

    • The Engineer October 14, 2013 at 2:13 PM #

      Salam aliakum.
      Brother, can you give the link/reference to the story.