What are your Expectations?

A friend of mine, Abdullah, taught college in Jeddah for awhile. When he began his first semester teaching there, he was told that the college placed students in English classes by their level of ability. Abdullah was assigned to teach two “average ability” classes and one “advanced ability.” He really enjoyed teaching the advanced class: they seemed more alert, more fun, asked better questions, and, as expected, had a higher grade average than the other classes.


On the final day of the semester, Abdullah commented on these differences to the other professors in the faculty lounge. He said he hoped to get more of the advanced classes next semester. But to his surprise, his department director said, “Abdullah, I don’t know where you got your information but we phased out the average/advanced distinction a year ago. You’ve been teaching mixed classes all semester like the rest of us!”

Abdullah couldn’t believe it!…….

He checked his records, and sure enough, there were far more A’s and B’s in the class that he thought was full of smart kids. And he really had enjoyed teaching that class more. But the only real difference between the classes had been Abdullah’s expectations of them.

You can set people up for success or failure by your expectations.

People tend to become what they think we expect them to be. If you communicate to the people around you that you expect them to be lazy, uncreative, and negative, that’s probably how they will respond to you. On the other hand, if you treat people like winners, they’re likely to become winners. Psychologists call it “The Pygmalion Effect.”


• The best salesmen expect customers to buy their product.

• The best executives expect employees to have creative ideas.

• The best speakers expect audiences to be interested.

• The best leaders expect people to want to follow.

• The best teachers expect students to learn.


Would you like to bring out the best in those around you? Here’s the key: Treat them the way they could be! Don’t just “tell it like it is.” Tell it like it could be.

What are you expecting this week from yourself,  from others,  from God?

19 Responses to What are your Expectations?

  1. Mohammad Mansour April 7, 2014 at 10:46 AM #

    Important Article
    It is advisable to consider the same idea in our behavior with the children.

  2. mayyada February 17, 2014 at 1:55 PM #

    i like all your posts.

  3. Anu December 8, 2013 at 12:56 PM #

    Yes !, As you sow, so you reap…

  4. Elsheikh October 10, 2013 at 12:42 PM #

    Really good article. Had this experience recently with a facilitator. The course had to be retaken by all students because of his attitude.

  5. skybeen October 20, 2012 at 5:11 PM #


  6. Mubarek AL-Amin October 16, 2012 at 2:40 AM #

    my clear fouce of attention forced back into me.. `~`

  7. hisham October 13, 2012 at 10:32 PM #

    I wonder why your page does not allow copy paste as before. it was of great help for me and i used your stories and moral quotes in my lectures. i wish you reconsider this in the future.

    • anonymous October 13, 2012 at 10:45 PM #

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    • Ali - Admin October 14, 2012 at 2:11 AM #

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  8. iqbal October 13, 2012 at 8:10 PM #

    really i like it but sometimes it dosen’t work with some people who do not care and have no responcibility so i think the leader or the executive firstly should give them a chance then he will be able to judge and deal with them as he saw and according to success in their work

    thank you i like it

    • Ali - Admin October 14, 2012 at 2:12 AM #

      Welcome Iqbal.

  9. Hafeez Ur Rehman October 13, 2012 at 2:59 PM #

    Inspirational , really good one, its the thing which we ignore in daily life. A worth reading article at least 2, 3 times in a week.

    • Ali - Admin October 14, 2012 at 2:13 AM #

      Glad you liked it Hafeez.
      Pls share it with your friends and let them enjoy as well.

  10. Iftikhar Awan October 13, 2012 at 10:11 AM #

    Good one!

    • Ali - Admin October 14, 2012 at 2:12 AM #

      Thanks Iftikhar.

  11. Ian October 13, 2012 at 3:31 AM #

    Very True. A good one

  12. Sonah October 12, 2012 at 11:47 PM #

    “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”W.shakespeare.

  13. Zaffar Iqbal Durrani October 12, 2012 at 1:07 PM #

    An excellent article.