What Is The Root Cause of Despair ?

What a dissatisfied world we live in! None of us in this World are satisfied with what we have, be it rich or poor, old or young, black or white, short or tall, lean or fat everybody desire things they don’t have.

Why is that so? “Because we love to COMPARE”. If you go around the world you’ll discover that people aren’t happy with what they have.

Africans are bleaching their bodies in an attempt to become fair-complexioned like White people. Whites want to own brown/dark bodies like Africans and Indians so they go and get their bodies tanned.

Those with moles have them operated and removed, while those who don’t deliberately implant them and call them beauty spots. Some people want to shed their weight to look like those skinny celebrities, while others want to gain some body fat to have pleasing fullness of figure like those rare chubby actresses.

Those who are short in height wished they were tall and vice versa. The young are tinting their hair white while the old are dyeing their hair black.

We live in a diseased world. And that disease is called “Compare and Despair Syndrome”. Isn’t it time we just stopped doing this stuff and just be happy with the way we are?!

Take a look at this scenario:

We are really happy in our three bedroom house. We feel blessed to live in this house as we are just a family of 4 and a three bedroom house is adequate for us and we love this beautiful sweet house of ours.

But the moment we see our own colleague’s/neighbour’s/friend’s posh 8 bedroom house with a lovely swimming pool in its backyard we automatically feel like third-class people.

The next time we enter our house which was once our home sweet home now appears to be old, clumsy, small and out-dated. We seem to, all of a sudden, see all the defects of the house which were apparently never there before. We start feeling deprived, outcast-ed and dispossessed.

Now read this – Bill Gates’ total assets are worth $60 billion.
That’s more than the GNP of some small countries. Tiger Woods earns
$80 million simply by smiling on TV in a Nike shirt.

The point is, no matter how hard you work and how much time you spend there will still be some people who will be richer than you and there will be some people who will be more beautiful than you and have more problems than you.

So Try this for once. Stop looking around. Don’t compare!
. Don’t compare her eyes with your eyes.
. Don’t compare his position with yours.
. Don’t compare her children’s grades with your children’s grades.
. Don’t compare his salary with your salary.
. Don’t compare her Lumpy deposits of body fat with yours.
. Don’t compare his car with yours.

Just STOP comparing and START living! I assure you, you will be the happiest person this way.

Always remember !
The most difficult thing in the world is trying to be who you are not. Pretending and trying to be someone else has unfortunately become the official pastime of the human beings today. (Do you think dogs and cats and donkeys and cattle have this problem? NO!)

Believe me ! The EASIEST thing in the world is to be YOURSELF. Stop living someone else’s life!

Be happy and live your own life!
There must be a reason why God made you tall or short or fat or thin or chubby all over.
Love who you are, it is not that difficult

Always remember, “Comparing” is destructive. It can damage our relationship with ourselves, with others and most importantly with God as it makes one become ungrateful for the blessings that He has showered upon us.

Try being yourself ! You will love it !