What Is The Root Cause of Despair ?

What a dissatisfied world we live in! None of us in this World are satisfied with what we have, be it rich or poor, old or young, black or white, short or tall, lean or fat everybody desire things they don’t have.


Why is that so? “Because we love to COMPARE”. If you go around the world you’ll discover that people aren’t happy with what they have.

Africans are bleaching their bodies in an attempt to become fair-complexioned like White people. Whites want to own brown/dark bodies like Africans and Indians so they go and get their bodies tanned.

Those with moles have them operated and removed, while those who don’t deliberately implant them and call them beauty spots. Some people want to shed their weight to look like those skinny celebrities, while others want to gain some body fat to have pleasing fullness of figure like those rare chubby actresses.

Those who are short in height wished they were tall and vice versa. The young are tinting their hair white while the old are dyeing their hair black.

We live in a diseased world. And that disease is called “Compare and Despair Syndrome”. Isn’t it time we just stopped doing this stuff and just be happy with the way we are?!

Take a look at this scenario:

We are really happy in our three bedroom house. We feel blessed to live in this house as we are just a family of 4 and a three bedroom house is adequate for us and we love this beautiful sweet house of ours.

But the moment we see our own colleague’s/neighbour’s/friend’s posh 8 bedroom house with a lovely swimming pool in its backyard we automatically feel like third-class people.

The next time we enter our house which was once our home sweet home now appears to be old, clumsy, small and out-dated. We seem to, all of a sudden, see all the defects of the house which were apparently never there before. We start feeling deprived, outcast-ed and dispossessed.

Now read this – Bill Gates’ total assets are worth $60 billion.
That’s more than the GNP of some small countries. Tiger Woods earns
$80 million simply by smiling on TV in a Nike shirt.

The point is, no matter how hard you work and how much time you spend there will still be some people who will be richer than you and there will be some people who will be more beautiful than you and have more problems than you.

So Try this for once. Stop looking around. Don’t compare!
. Don’t compare her eyes with your eyes.
. Don’t compare his position with yours.
. Don’t compare her children’s grades with your children’s grades.
. Don’t compare his salary with your salary.
. Don’t compare her Lumpy deposits of body fat with yours.
. Don’t compare his car with yours.

Just STOP comparing and START living! I assure you, you will be the happiest person this way.

Always remember !
The most difficult thing in the world is trying to be who you are not. Pretending and trying to be someone else has unfortunately become the official pastime of the human beings today. (Do you think dogs and cats and donkeys and cattle have this problem? NO!)

Believe me ! The EASIEST thing in the world is to be YOURSELF. Stop living someone else’s life!

Be happy and live your own life!
There must be a reason why God made you tall or short or fat or thin or chubby all over.
Love who you are, it is not that difficult

Always remember, “Comparing” is destructive. It can damage our relationship with ourselves, with others and most importantly with God as it makes one become ungrateful for the blessings that He has showered upon us.

Try being yourself ! You will love it !

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12 Responses to What Is The Root Cause of Despair ?

  1. dr.mamoun shalaby November 23, 2014 at 10:25 PM #

    dear sara my father used to tell me that the secret of happiness is the sense of satisfaction .when you got that feeling you shall be the richest man on earth.

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  3. Maicibi September 21, 2014 at 1:56 PM #

    This article is Godly, educating,philosophical yet entertaining.
    it is a must read piece. Keep it up Sarah

  4. BALA September 19, 2014 at 6:48 PM #

    sara u r amazing, and the collection of different things really makes me comparing my thaught to urs

  5. Ahmed Bello September 18, 2014 at 3:42 PM #

    Dear Sara.
    Great message!

    If we must compare, we should rather with those not as endowed as us. That way, we will have the attitude and disposition to feel contented with what we have and feel grateful to our Lord for the grace He has bestowed on us.

    Thank you for the message. I look forward to more of its kind.

  6. Stephen September 18, 2014 at 2:49 PM #

    Sara, you or your writer has done an excellent job by touching the sensitive area of a human being, as we are all busy with the fast life, survival of the fittest race etc… It’s very simple, if you have a 2 BHK house, think of the person who is having a 1BHK or a studio & be happy, that you are better off than him, rather waste quality time & life in
    getting to the 3BHK, then again you will find someone with 4BHK, it’s impossible, so the moral is to be content with what we have an GOD GIVES US WHAT WE NEED, NOT WHAT WE WANT

  7. Bakhte Nasar Falahi September 18, 2014 at 1:56 PM #

    Dear Madam Sana

    Really u did great job and u are appreciated for such a beautiful ang knowlegable essay. May Allah Bless u and u will continue write such a good essay.

    Bakhte Nasar Falahi

  8. Laila M. Kamel September 18, 2014 at 1:28 PM #

    When I was a child I asked my mother what is happiness? Happiness is being contented with what you have. ?? ??????? ?? ?????

  9. Farouk Kamal September 18, 2014 at 12:57 PM #

    An amazing article which should be read by everyone.

  10. Farouk Kamal September 18, 2014 at 12:52 PM #

    A wonderful and useful article.
    May God bless the writer of
    this article.

  11. Javed Alam September 18, 2014 at 11:58 AM #

    Great said.

    We must follow above lines to have a great and happy life. Almighty God has created everything for some objective.

  12. Zed September 18, 2014 at 11:57 AM #

    I really like what you are saying… that is a problem of all. We have to see some people always smile inspite of all the problem they have, with their little income, very old home … no property … despite of all this … they seem to be happy … the reason for their happiness is … they don’t compare their life with others but they are good in being grateful to God … they frequently praise God .. Alahmdullilah … we have to be ashamed of ourselves if we are not praise God with all the blessings he gave us … we can see, walk, talk, work, do all we want … and other… but still complain. If God test us by just depriving one of the blessings… then we know …

    what we have to do is as explained above.. be content with what we have… and be grateful … the benefit is not for God … it is for us…. we will be happy.