The Irreparable Damage – Moral Story

There once was a young boy who was mischevious and had a a very short temper. All efforts by his parents to change his bad behaviour were in vain. When just words were not enough his father though of a practical solution. He gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he got angry, he must hammer a nail into the fence of his house.

The first day the boy had driven 29 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks as he learned to control his anger and the number of nails hammered gradually went down.

He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when he didn’t lose his temper. He told his father and his father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his anger. The days passed and the boy told his father that all the nails were gone.

The father took the boy by the hand and led him to the fence. He said look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same, when you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like the ones on the fence.You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I am sorry, the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.

Moral: Actions done when angry can have irreparable damage. Words spoken when in anger can break relations and no matter how much you appolgize or regret, the relation will never be the same.


26 Responses to The Irreparable Damage – Moral Story

  1. Ansari Ali September 30, 2012 at 1:20 PM #

    Thirukural : 129 says as below
    In flesh by fire inflamed, nature may thoroughly heal the sore;
    In soul by tongue inflamed, the ulcer healeth never more.

    Explanation :
    The wound which has been burnt in by fire may heal, but a wound burnt in by the tongue will never heal.

  2. teresaowen26 January 9, 2012 at 8:51 PM #

    damages can not inflicted only by swords , tongue is the biggest weapon and you have explained it so well .

  3. Shakabansh5 November 10, 2011 at 3:38 PM #

    Hi,Sara : Any job need to be done perfectly by any must be cool and concentrate

  4. syed ehsan November 4, 2011 at 6:23 PM #

    you can heal the physical wounds but verbal wounds cannot be repaired with words very few people   
    seal those wounds by themselves

  5. Hisham_n_m_m_m November 2, 2011 at 4:35 PM #

    it is a good thing to control your tongue.A word once uttered is counted on you.

  6. uday November 2, 2011 at 10:58 AM #

    yes it is true words spoken when in anger can break relations, and even i have to change my short temper behaviour……….because of this behaviour i lost my girl friend………….

  7. Green Alwani November 2, 2011 at 9:29 AM #

    Here it is, the brave one, that one who controls his anger.

    However, sometimes you can’t blame the one who behaves out of his righteous feelings, the feeling of weakness and injustice. It depends on the situation he is being involved in. Sometimes, it could be a matter of dignity and honor. 

  8. Stephen November 2, 2011 at 7:32 AM #

    I totally agree

  9. Anonymous November 2, 2011 at 12:09 AM #

    i can sware i read this story here before

  10. Dori November 1, 2011 at 7:41 PM #

    If we can control are anger, then that is one thing we succeed against shaitan (devil). And the goal is to defeat shaitan.

  11. Misk November 1, 2011 at 5:57 PM #

    Very lovely story.
    Great moral.

  12. MUBAREK ALAMIN85 November 1, 2011 at 4:06 PM #

    i like fences idea
    good moral  

  13. MUBAREK ALAMIN85 November 1, 2011 at 4:06 PM #

    i like fences idea
    good moral  

  14. Adonis Argus November 1, 2011 at 2:46 PM #

    kehne mein kia jata hai …
    naaa kehne ie mein to sab kuch jata hai …
    verbal wound can never be healed …
    n the person who s hurt ll never be the same again …
    a little word said can follow you for a long time …

  15. Ranazahoor November 1, 2011 at 10:32 AM #

    a very good story. we  do not hurt others.

  16. Arefin November 1, 2011 at 10:18 AM #

    I have also bad temper and I cannot control me

  17. Nazeer Ataullah November 1, 2011 at 8:33 AM #

    As speed kills anger too kills, breaks the hearts and families.  Controling anger is a courageous act not cowardness.

  18. Syed Mazhar Hussain November 1, 2011 at 8:25 AM #

    Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be.

    Thanx for sharing…..

  19. Khaled Moiuddin November 1, 2011 at 7:33 AM #

    Actually now a days it has become a trend to hurt peoples feelings tactfully playing with words even without consideiring how painful they can be for the other person. Fear Allah, it is said that bitter words are like iron nail hammered into wood.

  20. Nahil November 1, 2011 at 7:32 AM #

    I guess the Prophet (pbuh) ways of summing it up fits this kind of situation: “..say something good, or keep your mouth shut”.

  21. Abier November 1, 2011 at 7:23 AM #

    perfect story! thanks for sharing 🙂

  22. Lispah Nyaboke November 1, 2011 at 7:00 AM #

    Anger brings damages  within  the heart and even physical

  23. HAIDER ALI786 November 1, 2011 at 6:49 AM #


  24. Asharaf Mohammedsali November 1, 2011 at 6:40 AM #

    a great advice it is……..

  25. SyrianGirl November 1, 2011 at 6:39 AM #

    Great story got me emotional

  26. sana April 30, 2010 at 6:02 PM #

    very nice